Sunday, August 12, 2007

Visitors from Benghazi

My cousin and his best friend are coming to Tripoli today. He asked me if he could stay at my appartment for a day or two and I said "yeah, sure". They're going to Tunis, for fun. I wonder what plans do they have.
Before I moved to Tripoli I thought a lot about what I should do about people coming to "visit me". I was always worried that I might be taken advantage of by people I don't really care about. It's true that I'm living alone in a 2-room appartment, but my landlord was very clear about having visitors over. Since we're in Libya, the neighbors would probably feel very uncomfortable if they see guys coming in and out of this appartment in the middle of their street, they will think the worst of it. And eventually they would make my landlord uncomfortable which might result in him telling me that I can't live there anymore. This is a risk I'm not willing to take, that's why I did my best to make it clear that anyone coming to Tripoli shouldn't assume that he'll be welcome to stay in my appartment. I really hate sounding like such a mean jerk -believe me I'm not :)- but it really is that simple, my appartment is NOT a free hotel for anyone to "hang around for a couple of days".
A detail worth mentioning, since I'm working from 8AM to 5PM, any visitor staying over can't be at the appartment at that time, it's not like I'm gonna make copies of the keys and hand them out. So that's another thing, even though I said it's ok for my cousin to stay, I don't know what to do at that time, 8am to 5pm. I can't let them stay in the appartment by themselves, either we all stay or we all go out. I was clear about that on the phone with my cousin, but I know I'll have to talk about it again with him when they arrive and make sur they understand what I'm saying and WHY I'm saying it.
I'll go back to work now, I think I'll update this "issue" tomorrow.

4 comments:

Lost-Libyan said...

lol...u can be alittle more flexible! ok I agree about u being not wanting people to come and go all the time, but if u agreed to let one stay in ur flat, dont make them stick to ur work schedule!! dont u think its a little extreme!
I dont about u , but I would never ask my guests to leave when I leave! :P

Alone in Tripoli said...

believe me I really hate this situation. But I don't intend to ask them to leave when I go out, I just need them to understand the sensitivity of the situation so no one would get upset. For instance, if they wanna stay at the flat while I'm gone it's ok, I don't think the neighbors would even notice. Like I said, I just don't want problems with the neighbors, so if my guests understand the position I'm in then I'm sure they won't put me in a bad position.

Lost-Libyan said...

well, u know better :P ...I wish my supervisor would let me split early today, Im beat! :P

Alone in Tripoli said...

Hi, this is me 12+ years later :)

I ended up getting "flexible" and allowing my visitors to chill at my place by themselves, and guess what? I ended up with a Trojan Horse on my computer (malware designed to invisibly track computer activity, including accounts/passwords etc), which was manually installed by one of the visitors. What followed was a huge drama, but that's for another day ;)